This morning I woke up at 2:49 am with the full conscious thought that “I am at the brinks of a break through.” Knowing that I am about to move to a higher level of living that is inwardly designed. I have set the intentions of Bigger, Better and Bolder in my life. I have spent the last year working on my courage to live the life I desire. I am demonstrating this courage through my art, my relationships /friendships, my creativity and my trust in others to share my love. It’s not always easy and this decision has required that I challenge my conditioning while making some real changes on the physical, spiritual and mental levels.
I have a very successful life by societal standards. I have gotten the two college degrees, worked on obtaining career goals, which I continue to achieve. I have bought the houses actually three (3) that I have filled up with stuff that I thought I wanted and/or believed that I had to have. I have owned many cars and trucks and traveled to places of my desire. I am very grateful for my life and I would not change a thing in the past. The past has taught me so much and has made me who I am today.
While obtaining my BA I studied the work of Abraham Maslow – theory of the hierarchy of needs. Below is a summary of the needs with a brief definitions:
Step (1) Biological and Physiological needs – air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep.
Step (2) Safety needs – protection from elements, security, order, law, stability, freedom from fear.
Step (3) Love and belonging-ness needs – friendship, intimacy, affection and love, – from work group, family, friends, romantic relationships.
Step (4) Esteem needs – achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, self-respect, respect from others.
Step (5) Self-Actualization needs – realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences.
I remember clearly setting the intention to reach the highest step of Self Actualization. Dr. Maslow theory states that there are stages that one must progress through to get to a place of Self Actualizing. Each step builds upon the other and if the step outcomes are not fully realized, you may not be able to proceed or sustain moving to the next step. Finally if you lose the realizations of a step while going up the ntep, it may result in your going back to the previous steps before you are able to fully proceed going up again to the next step. Self Actualization has always been my goal.
I have always seen this step as how and where I wanted to live. According to Maslow there are behaviors associated with obtaining self-actualization:
• Experiencing life like a child, with full absorption and concentration;
• Trying new things instead of sticking to safe paths;
• Listening to your own feelings in evaluating experiences instead of the voice of tradition, authority or the majority;
• Avoiding pretense (‘game playing’) and being honest;
• Being prepared to be unpopular if your views do not coincide with those of the majority;
• Taking responsibility and working hard;
• Trying to identify your defenses and having the courage to give them up.
While my intention was not always full conscious, I did set it and this reflection continues to reinforce my practice of setting INTENTIONS as I continue my journey.
There has been one additional step added to the theory as Maslow’s work has continued to evolve.
Step (8) Transcendence needs – helping other self –actualize.
I am very excited, as this new step gives me a new intention to work toward as I fully integrate step 1- 7 ensure my progression to step 8.
Still doing the inner work to obtain a Bigger, Better, Bolder – creative, conscious, community, continues…